If I Could Change One Thing… It’d Be the Volume of My Own Self-Doubt

What is one thing you would change about yourself? If I could change one thing about myself, I’d love to stop assuming I’m the bloody problem in every room I walk into. Honestly, it’s exhausting. I could breathe wrong and immediately think, “Well done, you’ve ruined the vibe again. Somewhere a group chat is forming.” […]

Is He an Avoidant? A Field Guide for the Newly Discarded

If you’ve landed on this post because you typed “Is he an avoidant?” into Google at 11pm after being ghosted by someone who claimed you were “different” twelve hours earlier, congratulations. You’ve arrived in exactly the right corner of the internet. I’m not here to hold your hand and sing “love and light.” I’m here […]

Why I’ve Been MIA: Eight Weeks of Chaos, and a Curry I Didn’t Waste

Beach or mountains? Which do you prefer? At this moment – either! Beach or mountains would be a welcome distraction from the chaos of my life……. So, hi. Long time no blog. I haven’t disappeared because I’ve been busy “adulting” I’ve been busy living through eight weeks of complete emotional chaos courtesy of dating an […]

The Art of Belonging to Myself

What skill would you like to learn? Not crochet, not the guitar, or the mystery of a foreign language. The skill I’d actually want is something far less obvious: how to be comfortable in my own skin. Some people just seem to have it. They walk into a room, sit down at a table, and […]

A Week That Actually Goes to Plan

Describe your ideal week. My ideal week is quite simple really: a week that actually goes to plan. Nothing over the top. Nothing exotic. Just life behaving itself, with the little things falling into place without stress. Appointments and meetings happen when they’re supposed to. Emails land in the right inbox. Chores, work, and life […]

How Do I Relax? Face Down on the Living Room Rug

How do you relax? “How do you relax?” it sounds simple enough. Except it isn’t. Because apparently my brain never got the memo on how to switch off. I’ve tried the “normal” routes. Yoga? Yeah, I’ve never stepped foot in a class (no thank you). My version is “Yoga for Beginners” on YouTube, done in […]

The Kind of Love That Stays

Not loud, not perfect, but completely unforgettable. Love isn’t always obvious. It doesn’t always arrive with grand gestures or fireworks. Sometimes, the love that leaves the deepest mark is quiet, and unexpected, the kind that stays with you long after the moment has passed. We grow up thinking love is simple. That it’s just boy […]

Feeling Love Every Day, Even When It’s Only in My Heart

What positive emotion do you feel most often? If I’m honest, the positive emotion I feel most often isn’t joy or excitement, it’s love. Not the kind I’ve ever had, but the kind I’ve always been reaching for. The love that has never found me. It’s that fluttering feeling in my chest, the tingling that […]

Peace Is a Treadmill and a Bloody Good Brew

What brings you peace? Peace isn’t some fairy tale bubble where everything’s perfect and quiet. For me, peace is a hard earned stillness in a life that’s been anything but. It’s the rare moments when the noise inside my head finally quiets down, the endless ‘what ifs’, the worries, the gnawing sense that I’m not […]

A Quiet Cup of Coffee and a Bit of Bloody Peace

Describe one habit that brings you joy. There’s a very specific moment in my day that brings me genuine, uncomplicated joy: the first brew of the morning, in complete silence. Not the half-distracted, slurp it between WhatsApp pings kind. I’m talking about the sit down, don’t speak to me, no phone, just leave me be […]