If I Could Change One Thing… It’d Be the Volume of My Own Self-Doubt

What is one thing you would change about yourself? If I could change one thing about myself, I’d love to stop assuming I’m the bloody problem in every room I walk into. Honestly, it’s exhausting. I could breathe wrong and immediately think, “Well done, you’ve ruined the vibe again. Somewhere a group chat is forming.” […]

Is He an Avoidant? A Field Guide for the Newly Discarded

If you’ve landed on this post because you typed “Is he an avoidant?” into Google at 11pm after being ghosted by someone who claimed you were “different” twelve hours earlier, congratulations. You’ve arrived in exactly the right corner of the internet. I’m not here to hold your hand and sing “love and light.” I’m here […]

The Art of Belonging to Myself

What skill would you like to learn? Not crochet, not the guitar, or the mystery of a foreign language. The skill I’d actually want is something far less obvious: how to be comfortable in my own skin. Some people just seem to have it. They walk into a room, sit down at a table, and […]

I Broke the Real Tradition: Silence

What traditions have you not kept that your parents had? They passed down a few things, sure – a roast dinner on Sundays, perfectly folded laundry, and a deep, loyal commitment to never acknowledging a single emotional need. Some people inherit heirlooms. I inherited a legacy of be quiet and get on with it. The […]

Trying to Heal, Be Creative and Parent All at Once, and the Algorithm Still Hates Me

The last few weeks, I’ve felt like I’ve been stuck on a hamster wheel, same loop, different day. Wake up, parent, work, perform for the algorithm, try to write, repeat. It’s a never ending cycle that’s become so ingrained I sometimes forget what I actually want from any of it. I’ve been trying to wear […]

The Rules I Was Never Taught

Grief doesn’t arrive politely. It doesn’t knock. It doesn’t wait until you’ve cleared your calendar or built up your resilience. It just shows up, uninvited, inconvenient, and fully expecting you to know what to do with it. But what if you were never taught? What if you grew up in a house where emotions were […]

Looking Forward, Finally.

What are you most excited about for the future? It’s not about chasing some picture perfect life anymore. It’s knowing that I’m finally moving away from the things that used to keep me stuck, old patterns, old habits, the quiet ways I used to betray myself just to feel safe or accepted. I’m excited to […]

Trying to Outrun the Blueprint

What are you most worried about for the future? Honestly? That I’ll spend the next 40 years exactly like the last 40, shrinking myself to fit into spaces that were never made for me. That I’ll never get out of the 9–5 grind, selling my soul in exchange for a wage that lines someone else’s […]

It’s Not All Candles and Calm, Is It?

How do you practice self-care? Well, that depends. Are we talking about the version that looks good on Instagram or the kind that actually helps? Because if it’s the polished kind, I whack on a face mask, light a candle that smells like lavender and false hope, and pretend a bubble bath has ever fixed […]

Overthinking Like a Pro: My Daily Time Thief Exposed

How do you waste the most time every day? Overthinking. Not just the usual spirals, though trust me, I’ve done my fair share of “what did that text really mean?” and “did I sound weird in that voice note?” But it goes far deeper than that. I waste time on all the could have beens […]