If I Could Change One Thing… It’d Be the Volume of My Own Self-Doubt

What is one thing you would change about yourself? If I could change one thing about myself, I’d love to stop assuming I’m the bloody problem in every room I walk into. Honestly, it’s exhausting. I could breathe wrong and immediately think, “Well done, you’ve ruined the vibe again. Somewhere a group chat is forming.” […]

Is He an Avoidant? A Field Guide for the Newly Discarded

If you’ve landed on this post because you typed “Is he an avoidant?” into Google at 11pm after being ghosted by someone who claimed you were “different” twelve hours earlier, congratulations. You’ve arrived in exactly the right corner of the internet. I’m not here to hold your hand and sing “love and light.” I’m here […]

Why I’ve Been MIA: Eight Weeks of Chaos, and a Curry I Didn’t Waste

Beach or mountains? Which do you prefer? At this moment – either! Beach or mountains would be a welcome distraction from the chaos of my life……. So, hi. Long time no blog. I haven’t disappeared because I’ve been busy “adulting” I’ve been busy living through eight weeks of complete emotional chaos courtesy of dating an […]

How Do I Relax? Face Down on the Living Room Rug

How do you relax? “How do you relax?” it sounds simple enough. Except it isn’t. Because apparently my brain never got the memo on how to switch off. I’ve tried the “normal” routes. Yoga? Yeah, I’ve never stepped foot in a class (no thank you). My version is “Yoga for Beginners” on YouTube, done in […]

Feeling Love Every Day, Even When It’s Only in My Heart

What positive emotion do you feel most often? If I’m honest, the positive emotion I feel most often isn’t joy or excitement, it’s love. Not the kind I’ve ever had, but the kind I’ve always been reaching for. The love that has never found me. It’s that fluttering feeling in my chest, the tingling that […]

Peace Is a Treadmill and a Bloody Good Brew

What brings you peace? Peace isn’t some fairy tale bubble where everything’s perfect and quiet. For me, peace is a hard earned stillness in a life that’s been anything but. It’s the rare moments when the noise inside my head finally quiets down, the endless ‘what ifs’, the worries, the gnawing sense that I’m not […]

A Quiet Cup of Coffee and a Bit of Bloody Peace

Describe one habit that brings you joy. There’s a very specific moment in my day that brings me genuine, uncomplicated joy: the first brew of the morning, in complete silence. Not the half-distracted, slurp it between WhatsApp pings kind. I’m talking about the sit down, don’t speak to me, no phone, just leave me be […]

I Broke the Real Tradition: Silence

What traditions have you not kept that your parents had? They passed down a few things, sure – a roast dinner on Sundays, perfectly folded laundry, and a deep, loyal commitment to never acknowledging a single emotional need. Some people inherit heirlooms. I inherited a legacy of be quiet and get on with it. The […]

Sobriety: The Unexpected Start to Reclaiming My Life

I had a moment this week. One of those quiet moments where something just clicks without fanfare. I realised I’m no longer counting sober days. No more crosses on the calendar. No big announcements. No apps clocking milestones. Just…life. Sober, ordinary and mine. The last mark on the calendar was back in 2023, when I […]

Trying to Heal, Be Creative and Parent All at Once, and the Algorithm Still Hates Me

The last few weeks, I’ve felt like I’ve been stuck on a hamster wheel, same loop, different day. Wake up, parent, work, perform for the algorithm, try to write, repeat. It’s a never ending cycle that’s become so ingrained I sometimes forget what I actually want from any of it. I’ve been trying to wear […]