The Real Soundtrack of My Workday: Noise, Doubt, and 80s Bangers

What do you listen to while you work? Sure, I’ve got Spotify on in the background now and then. Sometimes I stick on a playlist and pretend it’s helping, but really I’m just staring at the screen thinking about lunch. More often than not, it’s Heart 80s on the radio, safe, reliable, and occasionally interrupted […]

Trying to Heal, Be Creative and Parent All at Once, and the Algorithm Still Hates Me

The last few weeks, I’ve felt like I’ve been stuck on a hamster wheel, same loop, different day. Wake up, parent, work, perform for the algorithm, try to write, repeat. It’s a never ending cycle that’s become so ingrained I sometimes forget what I actually want from any of it. I’ve been trying to wear […]

The Rules I Was Never Taught

Grief doesn’t arrive politely. It doesn’t knock. It doesn’t wait until you’ve cleared your calendar or built up your resilience. It just shows up, uninvited, inconvenient, and fully expecting you to know what to do with it. But what if you were never taught? What if you grew up in a house where emotions were […]

Better. Not Bitter.

What do you think gets better with age? Me. Not my back, not my eyesight, and definitely not my tolerance for bullshit, because that’s completely vanished. But my sense of self? My standards? My ability to spot red flags without needing to see the entire parade? Elite. With age, you stop bending yourself into shapes […]

Looking Forward, Finally.

What are you most excited about for the future? It’s not about chasing some picture perfect life anymore. It’s knowing that I’m finally moving away from the things that used to keep me stuck, old patterns, old habits, the quiet ways I used to betray myself just to feel safe or accepted. I’m excited to […]

Gratitude Without The Glitter

How do you express your gratitude? I don’t light candles to thank the universe. I’m into the universe, don’t get me wrong, but I don’t think it needs constant applause. I don’t do affirmations. And I definitely don’t whisper sweet nothings to my dinner before eating it. You know what I do? I say thanks […]

Trying to Outrun the Blueprint

What are you most worried about for the future? Honestly? That I’ll spend the next 40 years exactly like the last 40, shrinking myself to fit into spaces that were never made for me. That I’ll never get out of the 9–5 grind, selling my soul in exchange for a wage that lines someone else’s […]

New York, Jet Lag, and the Pizza That Fixed Me

What’s the most delicious thing you’ve ever eaten? The writer in me was tempted to say the taste of success, keep it poetic, add a few metaphors, and sound like someone who drinks green tea and manifests positivity. But truthfully? Success never came with melted cheese or grease dripping down my arm. And I’m a […]

When Vintage Designer Meets Shame

If you were forced to wear one outfit over and over again, what would it be? Black leggings, because nothing screams functional adult woman who occasionally cries on her commute, like an elasticated waistband. Oversized hoodie? Absolutely essential. Preferably one that says “I’m totally fine” in Comic Sans. Trainers that carry the emotional weight of […]

It’s Not All Candles and Calm, Is It?

How do you practice self-care? Well, that depends. Are we talking about the version that looks good on Instagram or the kind that actually helps? Because if it’s the polished kind, I whack on a face mask, light a candle that smells like lavender and false hope, and pretend a bubble bath has ever fixed […]