Compression Suits and Pee Funnels: What Could Go Wrong?

If you read Sunday’s daily prompt, you’ll already be buckled in and waiting for this story. If you didn’t — well, first of all, where were you? And second, you can catch up here before diving into this absolute mess of a moment, starring me, a pee funnel, and a very unfortunate car seat. So there I […]

Some Teachers Teach. Others Inspire.

What makes a teacher great? You can tell a lot about a teacher by how they handle a student who’s struggling. Some write children off like it’s a personality flaw. Others change the way they teach, and suddenly that “lost cause” starts excelling. It’s not always the subject. Or the student. Sometimes it’s just the […]

Surgery Was The Easy Bit

Have you ever had surgery? What for? I have. The surgery bit was fine. The recovery? Not so much. Let’s just say it involved a car, a questionable gadget from Amazon, and a moment that still haunts me whenever I see an empty bottle. I’ll tell the full story soon. It deserves its own spotlight […]

Trying, Not Preaching: My Kind of Sustainable

Are there things you try to practice daily to live a more sustainable lifestyle? I’m not perfect, but I do my bit. I reuse carrier bags (unless they’ve vanished into the black hole that lives under the kitchen sink) I recycle, I don’t buy overpriced coffees in plastic cups, and we don’t use the big […]

Shadow work & the patterns i couldn’t ignore anymore

I didn’t go looking for shadow work. It found me, in the quiet moments, the overreactions, and the patterns I kept calling “bad luck” or “just the way I am.” It showed up in the way I’d brace for rejection before I even opened my mouth. In the way I’d shut down over the tiniest […]

New York, Jet Lag, and the Pizza That Fixed Me

What’s the most delicious thing you’ve ever eaten? The writer in me was tempted to say the taste of success, keep it poetic, add a few metaphors, and sound like someone who drinks green tea and manifests positivity. But truthfully? Success never came with melted cheese or grease dripping down my arm. And I’m a […]

Wordless Wednesday

How Emotional Neglect Fuels a Lifetime of Overthinking

Earlier today, I answered the daily prompt question about “what I waste the most time on” (spoiler: it’s overthinking — and you can read that little brain spiral here), and I realised something bigger was brewing underneath it all. I don’t just overthink because I’m dramatic, anxious, or can’t make a bloody decision. I overthink because […]

Overthinking Like a Pro: My Daily Time Thief Exposed

How do you waste the most time every day? Overthinking. Not just the usual spirals, though trust me, I’ve done my fair share of “what did that text really mean?” and “did I sound weird in that voice note?” But it goes far deeper than that. I waste time on all the could have beens […]

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No Structure, No Filters, No Clue

Welcome to “Thirty Something (Plus VAT)“ Before we dive in, let’s get one thing straight — this blog isn’t here to give you the secret formula to healing, 10 steps to a better life, or any other neatly packaged nonsense. I’m not your guru, there’s no life coach certificate framed on the wall, I’m just […]